Recently, a young contestant on Kaun Banega Crorepati grabbed attention—not for his answers, but for his confidence. When Amitabh Bachchan explained the rules, the child interrupted, “I know the rules, you don’t have to tell me.”
The clip went viral. Social media debated whether it showed confidence or arrogance. But it also raises a bigger question: Are today’s parenting styles creating overconfident or under-prepared kids?
Understanding Six-Pocket Syndrome
Originating in China during the one-child policy, “Six-Pocket Syndrome” refers to a child receiving love and resources from six adults (two parents + four grandparents). While it offers care and opportunities, psychologists noticed many children became overindulged, struggling with criticism, sharing, and failure.
India’s Modern Version
Even without a one-child policy, Indian urban families are seeing similar patterns. Smaller families, doting grandparents, domestic help, and high academic and extracurricular expectations create a “six-pocket” environment. While well-intentioned, this can foster entitlement and skewed self-perception—where the child feels always right, special, and in control.
Balancing Confidence & Character
Modern parenting aims for confident, expressive kids—but validation without boundaries can backfire. Experts suggest:
- Confidence should mean willingness to learn, not always being right.
- Humility is strength, not weakness.
- Speaking up must come with listening skills.
Schools must also emphasize emotional intelligence, resilience, and empathy alongside academics.
Why It Matters
Children shielded from failure may develop anxiety and struggle under pressure. Conversely, balanced love and discipline help build coping skills, social adaptability, and perseverance. Parenting coach Shaheen D’Lima sums it up: “Children taught ‘no’ early often hear more ‘yes’ from the world later.”
Key Parenting Questions
- Am I solving problems my child could tackle?
- Do I praise effort, not just achievement?
- Do I allow discomfort and learning from mistakes?
- Do I teach listening as much as speaking?
From Syndrome to Strength
“Six-Pocket Syndrome” is not about reducing love—it’s about adding structure. The KBC child reminds us that true success isn’t just knowledge or confidence—it’s character. Confidence opens doors, but humility and resilience determine how long they stay open.
